Ibn al Qayyim: Meetings Between Friends

Ibn al Qayyim: Meetings Between Friends

There are two kinds of meetings between friends:

The first kind is a meeting based on sociability and spending

time, in which there are more disadvantages than

advantages, the least of which is corruption of the heart,

and wasting time.

The second kind is a meeting for the sake of supporting one

another, and recommending one another to the truth and to

patience. This is the best kind, yet there are still three

disadvantages therein,

1) Flattering each other.

2) Being excessively talkative.

3) That such meetings become a habit or routine and they

fail to achieve their aims.

In general, the result of social meetings will be derived from

the source, which is either for the soul inclined to evil, or for

the heart and the peaceful soul. If the source is good,

surely the fruit will also be good. Pure souls derive their

nature from their Lord, while evil ones derive their nature

from the devil. Hence, Allah, the Exalted and Ever Majestic,

renders good women for good men and bad men for bad

women.

Ibn al Qayyim

AL-FAWA'ID: A Collection of Wise Sayings pgs 79-80